It is time for another U Fit Blog from Coach Helen Gribble! We hope you enjoy it and, as always, comment with any questions or insights!
The definition of avoidance is, "Keeping away or stopping one's self from doing something".
Have you ever found yourself avoiding a situation or a person for fear of what you'll have to face?
When it comes to avoiding, we are all masters of creating a means of escape.Take, for example, going to the gym.
There may have been a legitimate reason for not attending, maybe something got in the way, and you couldn't make it. But, roll on another few days, and you still have not been back. What may have started as a small decision suddenly grows into a larger one and, over the course of only a few days, it's become a huge deal in your head.
New reasons not to attend become more critical than the gym. While you know deep down that you could go, you build a story around the reasons why you can't.
The stories that you create give meaning to the reasons you have created for not attending - you make them legitimate, validating your fears. Without realising it, you are now avoiding going to the gym altogether.
If you write down all the fears that are resulting in avoiding the gym, what would they be?
I have spoken about Susan Jeffers before and for a good reason. She poses the question:
"If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear? The answer is NOTHING!"
Of all the fears that you write down, how many do you KNOW are an actual reality? The answer is none!
If there is something that you are avoiding right now out of fear, think of ways to break those fears down.
Let's use the original example – The gym has now become a huge deal, a huge fear. But rather than seeing the gym as a giant step to face and walking in, seeing people, foam rolling, warming up, working out, foam rolling, warming down, saying goodbye to people.
JUST TAKE THE FIRST STEP, only one - just walk in through the door, or even, walk through and see people.
In taking just one simple step, you can already eradicate some of those fears and remove the barriers that are causing you to avoid. Once you see that the concerns were not real, add in more steps. Start to warm up while you catch up with friends, and finally, take the plunge and work out.
While avoidance gives us short-term relief, the reality is that we can't avoid some things forever. The great news is that once we realise how to deal with it, there's no going back.